Feel Good Friday 20
Hey friends! It has been quite a week over here as I’ve been trying to stay on top of the blog, working my way through B school, subbing a couple spin classes, and of course, being mom. Some weeks are a little crazy and it’s hard to get it all done, but luckily I’ve got some tried and true methods that truly help the most of each day. I actually put together a downloadable PDF featuring 10 practically free ways for you to get more done each day, based on what has worked well for me. If you’d like to grab it, just enter your email address <—- over there on the left in my side bar and I will email it to you. To be quite honest, I wasn’t sure if I would get my Feel Good Friday 20 post up this week, but I have a lot of good things to share, so I just had to make the time. (I am an Amazon associate and make a small commission from qualifying sales made through my links.)
Books I Want: It’s currently No-Spend March, so I am not buying anything I don’t need. However, I have a small list going of things I really want to buy when the month is over, like a drying rack (we don’t have one, can you believe that?) and two books that were released this month. First up is Untamed by Glennon Doyle. I heard her speak on a podcast earlier this week, and I found myself in tears at times. Her new book is all about getting ourselves out of the cages that we put ourselves in, based on trying to fit in to society. I can’t wait to get my hands on a copy and read her words… I know they will resonate with me. Secondly, Dave Hollis’ book came out this month as well. Get Out of Your Own Way is a book in which he unpacks all of the lies he’s been telling himself such as, “I have to have it all together.” You guys probably know by now that I am a fan of his wife Rachel, and through her I’ve gotten to hear so much from him and I love how genuine and funny he is. I’ve actually just listened to chapter one of his book this week (on her podcast), and now I can’t wait for the rest to be at my fingertips! Additionally, every time I’ve ever tagged him in an instagram story, he’s replied with wit and sincerity, and I love that someone with that many followers would take the time to do that. Can’t wait to read these two books!
Get Outside: Spring is in the air and it’s time to get outside and let your body absorb that Vitamin D it’s been missing all winter long. I admit that as a mother to a toddler, I sometimes struggle with this one. Being outside means watching him like a hawk, making sure he doesn’t put those holly berries in his mouth, or run out into the street, or trip on a rock. The thought of it alone exhausts me sometimes, but I’ve made sure we’ve gotten outside to play for at least an hour each day this week. Our back yard is a hot mess, so we play in the front yard, throw a ball, run around, play with trucks, or play with chalk. This past week Wilder started handing me chalk and telling me what to draw… as you can see he is into buses, cars, and “woo-woos” which is what he calls firetrucks (for the sound they make). I am a far from perfect mother, and there are times I’d rather just sit on the couch, but every time we go outside together is a blessing. The fresh air, cool breeze, sunshine, daffodils, and birds are all wonders of this time of year we get to enjoy that feed our souls, and seeing it through the eyes of a toddler is an added magical bonus.
I Get To: I can’t remember where I heard this life hack last year, but it has truly changed my perspective in so many situations. Instead of saying to yourself, “I have to..,” use the words “I get to.” Where this shift has helped me is in giving my kids rides anywhere. Before it always felt like a chore. “I have to pick Emmy up from care club.” When I change the narrative in my head to “I get to pick Emmy up from care club,” it suddenly becomes about the appreciation I have for my daughter and the time I get to spend in a car with her, talking and hearing about her day. It’s just one little word substitution, but it changes everything.
Fair Trade Clean Candy: Chocolate. You want it. But you don’t want the junk that comes with it… Let me fill you in on Little Secrets, the fair trade candy with natural color only and no artificial ANYTHING! I bought the mint version at my local Whole Foods Market for the healthier bird’s nest cookies I made, and Chris and I couldn’t stop eating them. They might be the best mint candy I’ve ever had in my entire life. The fact that they are cleaner and fair trade is just a huge bonus! If you like mint candy or thin mints, I can’t recommend these enough, and I am anxious to try some other flavors. By the way, I call myself a vanilla girl… I am not generally into chocolate. That’s how good these are!
A Barbie Pioneer: I listened to this special International Women’s Month episode of the moth featuring a story told by Carol Spencer, a Barbie fashion designer. In this particular story, Carol talks about fighting to be recognized for her work and designs, especially after she discovers that even Yves St. Laurent looked to Barbie’s fashions for inspiration. What really struck me is that when Carol had to have a biopsy done, she noticed all the doctors were male and the nurses female. After that, she created surgeon Barbie. She also created astronaut Barbie in the early 80s. While many would argue that Barbie is far from feminist, Carol brought her brand of feminism to this corner of the world and I loved her strength of character. You can also read about her in this New York Times feature.
Making Friends: Finally, I just want to say how lucky I am that it didn’t take very long in the grand scheme of things for me to find my tribe here. Last week I was honored to attend the grand opening event for my friends at CoreX (I shared about that workout here), and had the best time hanging out with some of my friends. In the survey I posted earlier this week, I definitely had some questions about making friends and connections, and how I did it seemingly so quickly. I definitely plan to expand on this in an entire blog post, but I will say that the one thing that made a difference for me overall was changing my mind. For a while after we moved, I felt pretty lonely, and honestly, I felt like a loser no one wanted to know. I feel pretty ridiculous just typing that, but it’s the truth! I ended up winning a pair of seats at one of Lindsay’s workshops, and I honestly didn’t have a friend to go with. I brought Emmy with me, and before I went I made the decision that I was going to walk in smiling and confident and open to whatever the universe had in store with that lucky win. What happened was the start of a beautiful friendship with Lindsay that eventually led to me meeting so many other local women in business. Around the same time I joined my local gym, and I took that attitude of being open there and have also made several friends through that experience. As simple as it sounds, it truly took a change from within to get the results I wanted. Now look at us! (Chris and Wilder also attended with me, and I had to sneak in that photo, too!)
It’s so funny because sometimes when I write these Feel Good Friday posts, I fear I won’t have much to say! I honestly thought this was going to be one of those weeks because it had been so busy, but as soon as I sat down to write, the words just kept coming because my heart is in these posts. I hope you enjoy them as much as I do. Have a beautiful weekend!